Depression, You Can Get Help

My first experience with depression was when my brother died. He was almost 32 years old, I was 24.

He had cancer. The year before he passed, he had his arm amputated to rid himself of the cancer. But.. it didn’t work.

I just couldn’t believe that this could happen. He was so young.

At the same time I was fairly new in my relationship with my future husband and his three young boys. It’s hard to be so young raising someone else’s children.

I started seeing a therapist and started taking medication. Together they both helped and eventually I stopped taking the meds.

I tell you this because depression is dark, lonely, frightening, but with help can be made better.

PCH Treatment Center, which stands for Psychological Care and Healing offers help through a unique environment for persons with psychological problems who want an intensive, novel way to resolve their issues. They help with mood, anxiety and personality disorders as well as treatment programs for substance abuse.


I miss my big brother so much still. It’s been 16 years? Losing someone is so hard and time does heal….but it can be a long process.

What a cutie he was!







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I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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  1. So sorry to hear about your brother! 🙁

  2. Thank you for sharing your story and your brothers. It is so hard to stand next to someone fighting for their life and being the sibling. I know as my sister had cancer and passed away in 2007. Depression is a dark, lonely place… it’s brave and inspirational that you are sharing this and helping others, too 🙂 And, yes, what a cuite little guy he was!

  3. I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost a brother. He died from a drunk driver at 20yrs old in 2006. I know the pain of a loss. {{HUGS}}

  4. I’m so sorry for your loss! I appreciate you sharing his story as it may help others!

  5. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother.

  6. I’m sure the pain is still very strong in your heart and the feeling of lose will never go away. Hugs to you and hope you can find comfort in his memories

  7. I cannot imagine what you went through, loosing your brother.

  8. I m sorry about your brother,did the cancer take him? My husband lost his brother to suicide in 1999. He was 22. I used to get depressed, one time I even tried to commit suicide when I was a teenager, I thank God it didnt happen. My kids and husband keep me going now, I dont take medicine, I think those mess up your brain for the worst. Thats really too bad he was suffering in the end, but hes not anymore, hes happy and better.

  9. I am so sorry about your brother. I can not imagine thepain that was for you.

  10. That’s so very sad, and I’m terribly sorry you lost him. 🙁 Depression is very real, and it’s events like that which can often initiate it like you said. I struggled with it when my dad died for a long time.

  11. So sorry about your brother – that pain never fully heals.

  12. So sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story, I hope it helps someone to reach for the help they need!

  13. I’m so sorry for the loss of your brother. My husband deals with intense mood disorders as well, so I understand a little of what you went through.

  14. I’m so sorry for you loss. I don’t think you ever get over the missing of someone. I mean, how could you right? However, I think by living your life, and not being afraid to express the love you have for your brother you honor his life and his memory.

  15. I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I have definitely suffered from depression in the past and there is always help out there if you seek it out.

  16. So sad. I’m sorry for your loss and pain.

  17. I am so sorry about your brother. 🙁

  18. I’m very sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one no matter the age is extremely difficult.

  19. I am sorry for your loss! I have lost my mother and my sister at young ages. It is hard and it is a set back in life.

  20. I am truly sorry for your loss. And,I’m glad that you got help.

  21. What a heart wrenching story, it is so sad to hear, thank you for sharing..

  22. Thank you for sharing your painful experience. I know you will help someone else just by having written it.

  23. My heart goes out for you. I have a cousin that suffers from depression. It’s been hard on everyone.

  24. This is so sad, I’m so sorry 🙁