It’s a fact of life that not all relationships work out. When this becomes obvious, it’s time for both parties to move on and seek out a relationship that makes them happier – or be on their own if that is what they prefer. The problem comes when someone would rather be in a loveless or reckless relationship simply because they are worried about the breakup itself. This can become an even bigger concern when there are children involved.
This is not good for anyone, but it happens often, and rather than allowing everyone to be happy with new partners, this fear makes them stick with their current partner, even if it is clear that the marriage or partnership just isn’t working.
We’ve put together some tips on how to have a good breakup so that you can move on with your life, and so can your partner, ensuring that everyone is much happier in the long term.
Keep The Kids Out Of It
A breakup should only ever be between the two people involved – no one else needs to be part of it, and that is especially true when it comes to the children. When you have come to a decision about your breakup, then you will need to inform the children, but not before – and never, ever, speak badly about your ex to them. Just because you no longer love them doesn’t mean your children don’t.
Get Advice From Professionals
Therapy and counseling are always good ideas if you are having trouble coming to terms with the idea that you need to leave your relationship, no matter what your history or the reasons for coming to that realization. Having someone professional and unbiased to go through things with can help you to put things in perspective, and make you feel calmer and more ready to talk things through.
When you are ready to make things official, again, you should turn to a professional. An expert such as a Bristol family solicitor will make the process so much easier for you, taking the worry away from you so that you can concentrate on your own life, and the children you care for.
Be Honest
One of the most important elements of a good breakup is honesty. It is essential that you are open about why you feel the relationship is no longer working, and it is just as important that you listen to what your partner has to say about things as well. They may welcome the chance to air their own feelings, and it could well be that both of you feel the same and that the breakup you had been dreading is a simple and neat one.
No matter how long you have been with your partner, they deserve to hear the truth from you. They shouldn’t have to wonder why you feel you can no longer be together, and even if they don’t agree with you, it’s crucial that they hear what you have to say.
It is also important to ensure that any talking you and your partner do is done face to face – emails and texts won’t put across the real information, and it’s far better to talk openly with one another.
