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Do you have a Hearing Issue? Here’s how you Find Out

August 25, 2025 By Anne Leave a Comment

You rely on your hearing more than you might think. Whether you are talking to a loved one on the phone or whether you are having a conversation face-to-face, there are a lot of ways that you can find out if you are struggling with your hearing or if it is another issue entirely.

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You Can’t Hear

One big way that you can tell if you have an issue with your hearing is if you can’t hear anything. If you miss what people are saying or if you have to constantly turn your head so that you have one ear facing them, then this is a big sign that you are experiencing a hearing issue. You might also find that you end up struggling to tell when someone is talking, or that their voice is constantly muffled. If this is the case, then it is so important that you try and take action against this. If you do, then you may be able to stop the issue from getting worse, especially if it is a condition that can be treated. If you are struggling with standard age-related hearing loss, then you may try to seek out hearing aids. One of the best ways for you to navigate things like this would be to first get a hearing test. When you do, you can then make sure that you are getting the help you need with your hearing, and that you understand the things you are struggling to hear and why.

You Ask People to Repeat Themselves

You might have to do this now and again, but either way, if you constantly ask people to repeat themselves more than usual, then this is a big sign that you are struggling with your hearing health. You might also have to turn up the television so it is louder than it once was. It may be that your hearing is the issue rather than the television, so make sure that you keep this in mind if you can. Another big sign is if you are struggling to follow conversations in a setting. The type of setting where there is constant noise in the background can make things particularly difficult. If you notice you are finding things tricky lately, then this can certainly signify that it is time for you to get your hearing checked out.

Unusual Buzzing

If you hear a buzzing sound all the time, or if you hear a ringing sound, then this is a big sign that you are struggling with hearing loss. It may be that you are experiencing a noisy environment or that you can’t hear when you are on the phone. Either way, signs like this show that you have a hearing issue and that you need to get it resolved as soon as you can. If you don’t, then you may find that you end up causing more damage and that the issue escalates. This is especially the case if you are constantly exposed to loud noises.

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

Why Your Workout Might Be Your Best Therapy Session

August 25, 2025 By Anne Leave a Comment

When the world gets loud, your body remembers how to listen. Not to the pings of incoming messages or the hum of unfinished tasks, but to the subtle rhythm of your breath, the thud of your shoes against pavement, the sting of sweat meeting skin. Movement has a way of quieting the mental static—turning chaos into cadence.

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The Mind in Motion

Modern life asks much of the mind but little of the body. You sit through meetings, scroll through headlines, and carry worries like a second skin. Then one hour at the gym, and suddenly things shift. Muscles tighten, heartbeat rises, and something curious happens: your thoughts begin to order themselves.

There’s no official diagnosis for “overthinking fatigue,” but anyone who’s ever gone into a workout feeling emotionally tangled and left feeling loosely stitched again knows the power of movement. Cardio, weightlifting, Pilates—it doesn’t matter. What matters is that your mind stops racing when your body starts.

Emotional Architecture of Repetition

In a world obsessed with progress, workouts offer a peculiar kind of comfort: sameness. You press, pull, push—again and again. The repetition is physical, yes, but it’s also mental scaffolding. It builds stability. Familiar sets and reps become grounding rituals, anchoring the brain when life feels unstructured.

There’s a rhythm in squats and in silence. You begin to notice things: the way your spine aligns under pressure, how your breath curls into the pause between sets. You become aware, not just of effort, but of emotion—how anger sometimes fuels your pace, how sadness softens your form. Therapy often asks, “How do you feel?” Exercise lets your body answer.

Relief Beyond the Obvious

There’s a growing curiosity around non-traditional therapies, and for good reason. Not every wound needs words. For some, physical exertion becomes its own form of processing. Consider how those managing conditions like anxiety or even tinnitus turn to exercise not only for general health, but as a complementary form of relief. In fact, some studies suggest that increased blood flow and reduced stress can support tinnitus relief naturally—reminding us that healing doesn’t always arrive in the form of a pill or prescription.

When your body is moving, your focus narrows. The noise dims. That persistent ringing in the ears, or the echo of anxious thoughts, begins to retreat to the background. Not vanish—but soften. And sometimes, that’s enough.

Holding Space for Yourself

Perhaps the most underestimated value of working out isn’t physical transformation, but permission. You carve out time—for yourself, from yourself. No one is asking for a report or validation. The only feedback loop is internal: breath, beat, balance.

There’s clarity in that solitude. A kind that doesn’t demand articulation. You don’t need to explain why you’re there. You show up, you move, you feel. And when the session ends, you’re not always better in the traditional sense, but you’re no longer splintered.

It’s not therapy by definition. But in a world of blurred lines and overstimulated minds, maybe that’s precisely why it works.

Anne

6 Subtle Ways to Make Your House Look Expensive (Even if it’s Not)

August 21, 2025 By Anne Leave a Comment

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You ever drive by a house and think, “Okay, these people definitely have money”? But then you actually look closer, and it’s not a mansion, it’s just… regular. Okay, but what’s their secret? Well, chances are, it’s just what they do to the exterior, yeah, literally that’s it. Seriously, it’s not about square footage or even having a crazy budget. It’s about the little details that make a place feel like it belongs in a glossy magazine. And honestly, you can pull them off without maxing out your credit card (as unbelievable as that might sound).

Add a Gate and Watch the Magic Happen

Think of movies filled with rich people, actually, Clueless is such a great example, well, any Hollywood movie has mansions with gates, and yeah, they’re amazing. But generally speaking, there’s something about pulling up to a house with a gate that just screams, “You’ve arrived.” Even if there’s a minivan parked inside, the gate alone sells the fantasy.

Oh, and bonus points if it’s automated, because nothing feels fancier than a gate gliding open like you’re living in Beverly Hills (just like in Clueless). But automatic gate openers are basically your shortcut to looking like you’ve got an estate, even if your “estate” is just a two-car driveway. Seriously, it’s so simple, but it sells the idea so easily.

Consider a Driveway Glow-Up

Now, this one is expensive, so it’s entirely understandable if you lack any interest. But you should definitely keep in mind that rich people love a circular driveway, and honestly, it’s not just for the drama. It’s convenient, sure, but it also sets the tone the second you roll up. Again, just watch Clueless again for old times’ sake, and you’ll even see a round driveway in that movie, too.

But of course, if carving one into your yard isn’t happening (entirely understandable), then you can still step up your driveway game. Just think about crisp edges, a few pavers, some clean landscaping, and yeah, it’s the kind of upgrade that makes people think you have a personal gardener on speed dial (and it’s all you instead). Speaking of which…

Think About how You Mow the Lawn

Yeah, it’s a bit weird, but bear with this for just a moment. So, a plain green lawn? Sure, it’s fine. But a lawn with checkerboard or striped patterns? Now that’s a statement! Seriously, think about it, it’s like putting your grass in designer clothes. And it’s not rocket science, just mowing with a little technique.

While you’re adding it, go ahead and some bougie plants like hydrangeas or wisteria (or both), because they really scream “old money” even if you’re on a Target budget. Basically, it’s giving country club energy without the membership fees.

Bring on the Waterworks

Okay, so this goes back to the Clueless movie again, but nothing whispers luxury like a water feature (and they had a fountain). But really, even a modest fountain makes a yard look ten times fancier. It doesn’t have to be lions spitting water into a pool either; just a small, stylish fountain or trickling feature does the job. And yeah, those aren’t expensive either, which helps (and sometimes you can get them for steep discounts out of season).

Don’t Forget the Front Door

For the most part, rich-looking homes don’t leave their front doors naked. There’s always something happening there, like a glossy finish, dramatic planters, or seasonal décor that looks like it was curated by a stylist. Just look at Pinterest for some ideas.

Anne

How to Treasure Every Moment with Your Kids

August 20, 2025 By Anne Leave a Comment

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It is a common complaint that every parent has; they feel like time is slipping away and their kids are growing up too fast! While there is nothing you can do to turn back the clocks, there are ways that you can enjoy the time you do have with your kids as much as possible.

So, if you feel like you just can’t seem to make every moment count with your kids, here is a bit of advice for living in the moment and making memories that will last a lifetime. You can also join the pro love movement to support others.

Make a Scrapbook

A great way of making the most of each day when your child grows up is making a scrapbook. Take plenty of pictures, keep hold of any mementos and most importantly, write down what you have done each day. This is a great way of reflecting on each day as it passes and it certainly makes time seem to stretch out even longer.

Disconnect From Technology

One of the most common reasons that you may feel time slipping away from you is that you are too engaged with technology and you are not giving your kids enough attention. No matter how much easier technology has made all our lives, it also plays a big role in disconnecting us from reality and diverting our attention from what is most important. Though it is great to enjoy TV time with your family, your most memorable moments are usually the ones where you are more actively engaged.

Set Aside Your To Do List

Most parents have a seemingly endless list of jobs that they could be doing instead of spending time with their kids. While many of these are important, you can sometimes sideline the ones that aren’t and realise that what you have accomplished on that day is good enough. Letting go of some of your commitments to spend time with your kids is both extremely liberating and worthwhile.

Get Outside as Much as Possible

It is a follow up from the technology point, but getting outside as much as possible is extremely important as you can really enjoy your time together free of distractions. This way, you can really talk to your kids and encourage their spirit of adventure and freedom. Try to find different activities that you can enjoy as a family so that you get into a habit of trying new things together.

Listen to Your Kids When They Speak

Though it can be difficult sometimes to listen to everything your child says, it is incredible to see their unique personalities develop. Kids also really appreciate it when they feel like they are being listened to, so you can encourage a much deeper bond to develop between you. Also, pay attention to the small details of your child and try to take mental images that will stay with you for as long as possible.

Anne

5 Questions to Ask Before Choosing an ABA Provider in San Francisco

August 14, 2025 By Anne Leave a Comment

Choosing the right Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) provider can feel like one of the biggest decisions you’ll make for your child and it’s true, it’s an important one. Whether you’re considering in-home ABA therapy or center-based services in San Francisco, the provider you choose will shape not only your child’s progress but also your family’s day-to-day experience.

With so many options, from small local teams to large agencies, it can be overwhelming to know where to start. That’s why asking the right questions before making a decision is key. These questions will help you go beyond brochures and websites to truly understand whether a provider will be a good fit for your child and your family.

Here are the five questions you should be asking along with why they matter and what to listen for in the answers.

1. Who will be overseeing my child’s program, and what is their experience?

At the heart of any ABA program is the Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA). This is your team leader—the person who assesses your child, designs their treatment plan, and monitors progress. The BCBA’s approach, communication style, and expertise will directly impact your child’s experience.

Ask:

How long have you been a BCBA?
Do you have experience with children of my child’s age and diagnosis?
How many families do you currently serve?

Why it matters:
A BCBA with the right background and manageable caseload will have more time and insight to devote to your child. In San Francisco, where demand for ABA services is high, some providers may stretch their BCBAs thin. You want someone who can be hands-on and truly get to know your family.

Tip: If possible, request to meet or speak directly with the BCBA before committing. Chemistry and trust are just as important as credentials.

2. How often will the BCBA be directly involved in my child’s sessions?

In many programs, the BCBA designs the plan, while Registered Behavior Technicians (RBTs) work with your child day-to-day. While this is standard, the best outcomes happen when the BCBA is actively present—observing sessions, adjusting strategies, and checking in with you.

Ask:

How often will the BCBA be in our home or at the center?
Will they observe sessions in person, or only review notes?
How often will we have progress meetings?

Why it matters:
If your child is in-home ABA therapy, the BCBA’s presence is especially important for tailoring strategies to your environment and routines. You want a provider who sees the “real-life” context of your child’s day, not just the data on paper.

Look for:

Regular in-person observations
Monthly or biweekly parent meetings
Clear communication between you, the BCBA, and the therapy team

3. How will you involve me (and my family) in the process?

The best ABA programs are a partnership. While your provider brings expertise in behavior analysis, you bring expertise in your child. Your insights, priorities, and comfort level matter.

Ask:

What role will I play in sessions?
How will you train me to use strategies outside of therapy?
How do you handle family or caregiver involvement?

Why it matters:
ABA is most effective when skills taught in therapy are practiced in everyday life. If you’re not included in the process, there’s a gap between the therapy setting and the real world. Providers who offer parent training and keep you in the loop will help you reinforce progress long after the therapist leaves.

If you’re curious about what those strategies might look like in action, this guide on top ABA therapy techniques every parent should know breaks down the methods you’re most likely to use at home.

Red flag:
If a provider resists your involvement or doesn’t have a clear plan for parent training, you may struggle to see lasting results.

4. What is your approach to setting and adjusting goals?

No two children are the same—and no two ABA programs should be, either. A great provider will build a plan based on your child’s needs, strengths, and family priorities, then adapt it over time.

Ask:

How do you determine goals?
How often do you review and update them?
How do you measure progress?

Why it matters:
ABA is data-driven, but that data needs to be interpreted with compassion and flexibility. In the fast-paced environment of San Francisco, you may notice changes in your child’s needs faster than the plan updates—so knowing how responsive your provider will be is key.

Look for:

Individualized goals that reflect your child’s life, not just a generic checklist
Regular reassessments (every 3–6 months or sooner if needed)
A willingness to adjust based on both data and your feedback

5. How do you ensure consistency and quality across your team?

Even the best BCBA can’t do it alone. If your child will be working with multiple therapists, you want assurance that everyone is on the same page.

Ask:

How do you train new therapists before they work with my child?
What happens if a therapist is out sick or leaves the agency?
How do you maintain quality and consistency?

Why it matters:
In ABA, consistency is critical. Sudden changes in approach, tone, or expectations can set progress back. You want a provider with systems in place to ensure that no matter who walks into your home or the center, your child’s program is implemented the same way.

Pro tip:
Ask if you can meet the therapists before they start. You’re looking for warmth, patience, and a personality that will connect with your child.

Final Thoughts: The Right Questions Lead to the Right Fit

Choosing an ABA provider in San Francisco isn’t just about credentials or convenience, it’s about finding a team that sees your child as more than a diagnosis and your family as more than a schedule. The right provider will make you feel heard, respected, and supported from day one.

Remember, you are interviewing them just as much as they are assessing your child’s needs. A provider who welcomes your questions and answers them clearly is one who values collaboration.

If you’re considering in-home ABA therapy, these conversations become even more important: you’re inviting this team into your personal space and daily life. Make sure it’s a partnership that feels right.