5 Questions to Ask Before Choosing an ABA Provider in San Francisco

Choosing the right Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) provider can feel like one of the biggest decisions you’ll make for your child and it’s true, it’s an important one. Whether you’re considering in-home ABA therapy or center-based services in San Francisco, the provider you choose will shape not only your child’s progress but also your family’s day-to-day experience.

With so many options, from small local teams to large agencies, it can be overwhelming to know where to start. That’s why asking the right questions before making a decision is key. These questions will help you go beyond brochures and websites to truly understand whether a provider will be a good fit for your child and your family.

Here are the five questions you should be asking along with why they matter and what to listen for in the answers.

1. Who will be overseeing my child’s program, and what is their experience?

At the heart of any ABA program is the Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA). This is your team leader—the person who assesses your child, designs their treatment plan, and monitors progress. The BCBA’s approach, communication style, and expertise will directly impact your child’s experience.

Ask:

  • How long have you been a BCBA?
  • Do you have experience with children of my child’s age and diagnosis?
  • How many families do you currently serve?

Why it matters:
A BCBA with the right background and manageable caseload will have more time and insight to devote to your child. In San Francisco, where demand for ABA services is high, some providers may stretch their BCBAs thin. You want someone who can be hands-on and truly get to know your family.

Tip: If possible, request to meet or speak directly with the BCBA before committing. Chemistry and trust are just as important as credentials.

2. How often will the BCBA be directly involved in my child’s sessions?

In many programs, the BCBA designs the plan, while Registered Behavior Technicians (RBTs) work with your child day-to-day. While this is standard, the best outcomes happen when the BCBA is actively present—observing sessions, adjusting strategies, and checking in with you.

Ask:

  • How often will the BCBA be in our home or at the center?
  • Will they observe sessions in person, or only review notes?
  • How often will we have progress meetings?

Why it matters:
If your child is in-home ABA therapy, the BCBA’s presence is especially important for tailoring strategies to your environment and routines. You want a provider who sees the “real-life” context of your child’s day, not just the data on paper.

Look for:

  • Regular in-person observations
  • Monthly or biweekly parent meetings
  • Clear communication between you, the BCBA, and the therapy team

3. How will you involve me (and my family) in the process?

The best ABA programs are a partnership. While your provider brings expertise in behavior analysis, you bring expertise in your child. Your insights, priorities, and comfort level matter.

Ask:

  • What role will I play in sessions?
  • How will you train me to use strategies outside of therapy?
  • How do you handle family or caregiver involvement?

Why it matters:
ABA is most effective when skills taught in therapy are practiced in everyday life. If you’re not included in the process, there’s a gap between the therapy setting and the real world. Providers who offer parent training and keep you in the loop will help you reinforce progress long after the therapist leaves.

If you’re curious about what those strategies might look like in action, this guide on top ABA therapy techniques every parent should know breaks down the methods you’re most likely to use at home.

Red flag:
If a provider resists your involvement or doesn’t have a clear plan for parent training, you may struggle to see lasting results.

 

4. What is your approach to setting and adjusting goals?

No two children are the same—and no two ABA programs should be, either. A great provider will build a plan based on your child’s needs, strengths, and family priorities, then adapt it over time.

Ask:

  • How do you determine goals?
  • How often do you review and update them?
  • How do you measure progress?

Why it matters:
ABA is data-driven, but that data needs to be interpreted with compassion and flexibility. In the fast-paced environment of San Francisco, you may notice changes in your child’s needs faster than the plan updates—so knowing how responsive your provider will be is key.

Look for:

  • Individualized goals that reflect your child’s life, not just a generic checklist
  • Regular reassessments (every 3–6 months or sooner if needed)
  • A willingness to adjust based on both data and your feedback

5. How do you ensure consistency and quality across your team?

Even the best BCBA can’t do it alone. If your child will be working with multiple therapists, you want assurance that everyone is on the same page.

Ask:

  • How do you train new therapists before they work with my child?
  • What happens if a therapist is out sick or leaves the agency?
  • How do you maintain quality and consistency?

Why it matters:
In ABA, consistency is critical. Sudden changes in approach, tone, or expectations can set progress back. You want a provider with systems in place to ensure that no matter who walks into your home or the center, your child’s program is implemented the same way.

Pro tip:
Ask if you can meet the therapists before they start. You’re looking for warmth, patience, and a personality that will connect with your child.

Final Thoughts: The Right Questions Lead to the Right Fit

Choosing an ABA provider in San Francisco isn’t just about credentials or convenience, it’s about finding a team that sees your child as more than a diagnosis and your family as more than a schedule. The right provider will make you feel heard, respected, and supported from day one.

Remember, you are interviewing them just as much as they are assessing your child’s needs. A provider who welcomes your questions and answers them clearly is one who values collaboration.

If you’re considering in-home ABA therapy, these conversations become even more important: you’re inviting this team into your personal space and daily life. Make sure it’s a partnership that feels right.

 

 

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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Preparing Your Teen To Take On The World

If you are a parent to a teen then you may have already faced many trials and tribulations in their life. Being a parent is never easy and there is no manual that tells you what to do along the way. However, if you have made it to the teenage years then you have done a fantastic job already. If they are just deciding whether to go to college or head out into the big business world, you need to know they are prepared for everything. 

Check out the article below to find out more on preparing your teen to take on the world. 

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Teach Life Skills

One of the best skills you can teach your teen is life skills. This means knowing how to cook, clean, and generally look after themselves. Knowing when they need to shower and how to shower and wash themselves is a vital skill. Many teenagers, especially boys can be incredibly lazy when it comes to personal hygiene. Small reminders here and there to shower or bathe every day and to use deodorant can really make the world of difference. 

Children in the kitchen can sometimes be irritating and annoying, however, how else are they going to learn how to cook? Having basic kitchen knowledge could mean the difference between your teen using microwave meals or being able to cook from scratch. Get them in the kitchen, show them how to chop fruit, veg, and meat. They will honestly thank you later when they are needing to think of meals to eat. 

Also Teach Basic Maintenance

As well as knowing how to cook and stay clean, they should also know basic DIY skills. Most boys will grow up watching relatives carry out various tasks around the house, however, girls should also learn these types of skills as well. If you are wanting them to foster independence then they will need to know how to hang photos on the wall or how to fill a hole in the wall. Changing lightbulbs is something that they will often have to do, if they aren’t sure how to do it then they could end up living in darkness. 

Before they venture off to face the world, provide them with some basic tools that they might need for DIY jobs. This could be screwdrivers, drills, stanley blade, or various nails. The great thing about doing DIY these days is that there are numerous videos online that your kids can follow along to. 

Show Them How To Manage Money 

There is a vital skill that many children aren’t learning these days, and that’s the value of money. It is much harder these days to teach children about money as most transactions are contactless or on a physical card. There is no cash to put in front of your child and ask them how much change they would get from a twenty for instance. While you could get cash out just to do this, a lot of parents don’t see the point as they will just use a card anyway. The issues arise when children assume there is a never ending supply of money on these cards, which does happen. ‘Mummy doesn’t have any money’ and the child says ‘yes you do, just use your card’. 

If you are wanting to teach your child the value of money then you could get them their own bank card. This will be topped up with any money they earn, such as chore money or pocket money. This will give them a basic understanding of how much they have and how much they have left after various purchases. 

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Allow Them To Socialize

Children should always be allowed to socialize with children their own age, this starts from when they are very very young. Children tend to be wrapped in cotton wool these days due to the age we live in. When you have very little children, try and take them to baby clubs so they learn how to interact with other children. They will learn how to act and how to share with others, it is also important they learn how to act around adults. 

As they get older, it can be tricky keeping on top of their behavior. For instance, they could start swearing or answering back. It is best to keep on top of this, and nip any negative behaviour in the bud before it escalates. 

Help Them Find A College 

Now, they might come to you at some point and enquire about studying at college or university. You should ensure you listen to this as they simply want to try and better themselves by heading in the right direction with their career choices. Speak with them about the type of course they need to do, where they are going to study, and how much each course will cost. 

If you don’t have a college fund for your children then you could look at something like ascent funding. This is a college loan that won’t cost you or your teen a small fortune to pay back. They can cover any amount of your teen’s college course, up to 100% of the fees. 

Encourage Work Experience

Finally, if your teen doesn’t yet know what they want to do when they graduate college then you could encourage them to do some work experience. This will give them a better idea of who they are and what they want to do. Work experience can be undertaken anywhere, from a doctor’s surgery to a veterinary practice. 

Speak to them about any dreams or aspirations they have, this will help you suggest different ideas they might be interested in. If your teen isn’t interested in anything that you suggest then they might need some more time to think about it.

We do hope you found some useful advice, tips, and tricks in this article. Handling your teens’ futures can be a big responsibility. You want to make sure they have all the necessary skills and knowledge to face the big wide world. All you can do is try your best to be a great parent, they will always appreciate your hard work and efforts. 

 

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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From Cotton to Catwalk: Top Fabrics and Prints in Wholesale Fashion

When it comes to creating a clothing store loved by customers, the right clothing is the key to success. But to have the right clothing for your customer base, you have to take a closer look at the fabrics and prints that you choose. Whether you’re shoppers like a simple loungewear style or a statement dress, the materials and prints you choose set the tone for your boutique.

At Dear Lover Clothing, we work closely with thousands of boutique owners and wholesale buyers, and we’ve seen first-hand which styles constantly fly off the shelves. Here’s a look at the fabrics and patterns that are leading the way in today’s market.

Fabrics: What’s In

Cotton

It’s really no surprise that the lightweight, breathable cotton is at the very top of the “it” list of fabrics. It’s the go-to choice for your everyday basics and traditional staples. Cotton delivers comfort your customers can count on.

Polyester Blends

What about a fabric that holds up to wear and tear? Or fabric that keeps its shape? Polyester is going to be your go-to. It’s ideal for bodycon fits, flowy blouses, and anything with a bit of stretch. Plus, they take dye well, so prints stay vibrant wash after wash!

Rayon

Rayon is elegant with a soft, silky feel, which is why it’s become a fan favorite for more elevated looks. Think maxi dresses, wrap styles, and wide-leg pants! It’s lightweight with great drape, making it perfect for warm-weather collections.

Knits and Ribbed Textures

These add a cozy, stylish vibe, which is a total a must-have for fall or winter collections. Ribbed knit tanks and matching sets are especially popular among boutique buyers right now!

Patterns That Pop

Floral Prints

Whether you’re going for a soft, romantic feel or looking for a bold tropical flair, this pattern is a bestseller all year ‘round. Florals work across multiple seasons, and even more silhouettes! Think sundresses, kimonos, and even joggers. They’re a smart staple for closets, and an even better staple for your boutique racks.

Animal Prints

Whether you’re bold or just looking for a bit of pop, animal prints are the perfect staple for your closet or store racks. These prints are timeless, seen throughout the ages on even the biggest fashion icons. They have the perfect staying power, especially when styled in trendy cuts like asymmetrical tops or midi skirts. They’re a boutique favorite for shoppers who want to stand out.

Abstract and Geometric

Clean lines and unique shapes make these patterns the perfect fit for stores looking for a modern or minimalist style. They add visual interest without overwhelming the garment, and they pair well with solid separates.

Fun Patterns

Tie-dye isn’t just for beach days, just like plaid isn’t simply a fall ‘fit! Nowadays they’re showing up in matching sets, oversized tees, and even jumpsuits. They’re playful and still selling strong.

What This Means for Your Boutique

Success in owning your store comes down to knowing what your customers will connect with and sourcing those pieces at the right time. At Dear Lover Clothing, we make it easy to stay ahead of the trends, so you can focus on what you do best: curating a boutique that stands out.

 

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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How To Motivate Your Teen To Save Money

A parent’s guide to helping teens build strong financial habits that last a lifetime

Getting your teen to save money can feel a bit like asking them to clean their room without being told twice—possible but not exactly easy. 

Most teens aren’t naturally motivated to save. They live in the now, and if they’ve got money in their wallet, chances are they’re ready to spend it. All of this isn’t to say they can’t learn to save. It just means they need the right kind of motivation

Teens are much more likely to save when they feel like it’s tied to something they care about: a car, a trip, a new phone, or even the independence of not having to ask you for money. With the right approach, you can turn saving from a boring chore into something empowering and rewarding. 

Make Saving Tangible

Asking a teen to save “just because” rarely works. To them, the idea of building a savings account for someday can feel abstract, boring, or worse…pointless. Motivating your teen to get in the habit of saving starts with giving them a purpose they can actually get behind.

Start with a short-term goal, something they’re genuinely excited about, like a new phone, concert tickets, or a new pair of shoes. These types of goals feel attainable and will give your teen a clear reason to hold off on impulse purchases.

Once they’re in the groove of saving for short-term wants, introduce the idea of long-term financial goals. This could be saving for their first car, saving for college books, or having emergency money stashed away so they don’t need to ask you for cash every time something comes up. Long-term goals feel less exciting than the fun short-term wants, but they lay the foundation for some financial freedom later down the road.

Encourage Them To Earn Their Own Money

When teens work for their own cash, whether through chores or a part-time gig, they begin to understand its true value. Suddenly, spending $40 on a clothing haul doesn’t seem quite as fun when it took hours of work to earn it. 

If your teen hasn’t started earning yet, ease them in by exploring opportunities that match their interests and comfort level. Maybe they’re great with kids and want to babysit for neighbors. Maybe they’re artistic and could sell digital art or handmade crafts online. Or maybe they’re ready for a weekend job at a local shop or café.

With their own income coming in, you can help guide them on how to spend their money wisely: saving a portion of their paycheck for those short-term and long-term goals while having a bit for their everyday needs. 

Talk Openly About Real-Life Costs

 

For teens, the idea of saving for “the future” feels vague and unmotivating, especially when their priority is what’s happening this weekend. Connecting real-world expenses and the freedom that comes with it can help make saving feel more relevant.

Have open, honest conversations with your kids about the actual cost of everyday things. Break down how much gas costs, what a phone bill looks like, or what their dream car’s monthly payment might be. Don’t overwhelm them with all the details, but do give them a clear picture to help bridge the gap between fantasy and reality.

You can frame these lessons around freedom and choices, not restrictions. You might say:

  • Want to take a trip with your friends next summer? Saving now means you can go without asking for help.
  • Want your own car? Saving for a bigger down payment will give you more flexibility with a lower monthly payment.
  • Want to live on your own sooner? Learning to manage money today sets you up to do that confidently.

Teens are much more likely to take saving seriously when they see it as the key to unlocking freedom. 

Make It a Challenge

Teens love a good challenge. Whether it’s beating a level in a video game, winning a match at their sport, or keeping a Snapchat streak alive for 300+ days, they’re wired for motivation through achievement. So, why not apply that same mindset to saving money?

Turning saving into a competition makes it feel more fun rather than forced. Try out a monthly savings challenge. You may challenge your teen to save $50 each month of summer, and if they hit their goal, they get a bonus like a small treat or an extra privilege like picking the next restaurant for a night out.

Have more than one kid at home? Introduce a friendly family savings competition. Who can save the highest percentage of their income in 30 days? Who can go the longest without impulse purchases? Add a small reward, a matching incentive, or bragging rights to the mix, and you’ve just made saving money into something they want to do. 

Open a Savings Account

Once your teen starts building up some money, they’ll need a safe place to keep it. A savings account gives them the resources to store money securely, track deposits and withdrawals, and get familiar with digital banking tools. They can keep their savings separate from their everyday spending so they aren’t tempted to spend it. 

If your teen has earned income from a job, you can take things a step further with a custodial Roth IRA. You and your teen can contribute post-tax income into this investment account where it grows tax-free for retirement. That may not seem thrilling to a teenager now, but making even just small contributions now gives their money ample time to grow. 

Lead By Example

As much as we’d like to think our teens aren’t paying attention to us, they absolutely are. When your teen sees you making smart financial decisions, they’re more likely to mirror that behavior—even if they won’t admit it out loud.

Be open with your kids about your own experiences with money. Share stories about what you wish you had known about money at their age, how you save for emergencies or vacations, or even how you learned from a financial mistake. This kind of transparency makes money feel less intimidating and more like a normal part of adult life. 

It’s also important to create space for ongoing money conversations. Instead of sitting them down for a one-time “money talk,” look for everyday moments to weave it in:

  • Encourage them to listen in when you’re comparing prices at the grocery store.
  • Ask them to help calculate a tip when you go out to eat.
  • Talk through how you decided between two purchases or why you waited to buy something on sale. 

These real-life, low-pressure conversations help build your teen’s financial decision-making skills organically. 

 

Saving money might not come naturally to teens, but motivation grows when they feel empowered, supported, and in control. It probably won’t be your teen’s favorite thing, but what matters is helping them see the point in saving. 

Whether they’re saving for a car, college, or just the feeling of independence, your support and guidance can make all the difference. And once they start hitting their own money goals—even the small ones—they’ll start to feel that pride and momentum build.

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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Looking After Your Elderly Parents Doesn’t Have To Be A Struggle

If your parents are now of an age where they are struggling to look after themselves then they may be relying on you to help. This can be incredibly difficult especially if you have your own life to lead. Not everyone will have the time or the space to help their parents, they could have children of their own and busy jobs. 

If you are looking for helpful tips and tricks when it comes to looking after your parents then take a look at the article below. 

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Visit Them Often

One thing you can do to help your elderly parents is visit them as often as you can. This will give them something to look forward to each week and offer them the chance to see a familiar face. The last thing you want for your parents is to feel lonely and like nobody wants to see them, aim for at least once a week but if you can do more then that’s great. 

If there are a few of you that can make the trip to visit then set up a rolling schedule. Each person can have a different day and then the pressure doesn’t get too much for one single family member. 

Hire Help 

If there is simply nothing that you can do for your parents, for instance if you live too far away or in a different city then you will need to explore options. If they are still capable of looking after themselves then you don’t want to go down the nursing home avenue just yet. However, there may be some tasks that just can’t be done in the home anymore. This is where a home care agency can help you out as a family. They can come in and sort out meals, cleaning, and pills for your elderly parents. 

Take Them Places

You may be looking for places to go with your elderly parents, always try and include them in activities you do so they don’t feel like a burden in your life. This could be going anywhere from the zoo to abroad somewhere. If you love spending time with them then why not? Speak to them about where you are going and always keep them in the loop. 

Encourage Socializing 

Finally, socializing is a wonderful way for your elderly parents to meet people who enjoy the same things as they do. This could be anything from bingo to hitting the gym, if they have a shared interest then they are more likely to carry on going.

Try and encourage them to join elderly groups in the neighborhood or even meet up with existing friends. It has been shown that meeting friends at least twice a week can help reduce the risk of cognitive decline as people age. 

So there you have it, a useful guide on how to look after your elderly parents. Remember, it isn’t a given that you will care for them when they reach old age. If you are able to then this will relieve some of the pressure and stress from everyone involved. 

Anne

I'm a mother of 2 who likes to get involved in too much! Besides writing here I started a non-profit, I'm on the PTO board, very active in my community and volunteer in the school. I enjoy music, reading, cooking, traveling and spending time with my family. We just adopted our 3rd cat and love them all!

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